If you really want to find a partner through an online dating service, then you need a number of good photos, well, at least one good photo. All the dating sites will tell you this. What they don’t tell you, but you probably already know that the typical examples most people give in their profiles are simply not good enough. Most people try to get along with what’s available. The typical examples we’ve all seen are –

– The self-portrait taken with the contents of your kitchen/bathroom/bedroom All the mess in the background is there for the world to see. The image is very selective and the color is completely blurred, either it is completely red or the person seems to have a bad dose of yellow jaundice.

– One of the boys is particularly susceptible to a background picture that a friend took with his mobile phone camera in the pub. They probably took one too many, and you can see it in the picture. The picture is too dark, because there is not much light in the pub, or it was taken with the camera flash, and in this case, it looks like they got scared without thinking.

– One for the girls is the shot on the beach on vacation, where they try to portray the idea that they are a serious working girl looking for a long term relationship. The problem is that the man’s attention and eyes have gone south. The two things they’re not looking at are the eyes. Whatever they write on their profile, it’s no use, they’ve already made an impression, but not the one you wanted.

– Another for the boys is the shirtless photo. They’re not “Mr. Universe,” and even if they have one of those physics jobs that took them hundreds of hours in the gym, they need really good lighting to make it look good. Actually, it just looks cheap.

– The close-up of “Do It Yourself” taken with a cell phone, about 45 degrees to the right if you’re right-handed. Super detail every scratch, pimple and imperfection well highlighted. All you can see is his nose and his eyes.

– Let’s not forget the Christmas jewel, filmed in a familiar place. Great shot of the places and the person is the little dot in the middle.

You probably think I’m going to tell you that you need to have your picture taken by a professional portrait photographer, well yes and no. Yes, this will certainly give you some great pictures that will really enhance your dating profile.

But to get your dating profile up and running, you can create a great picture yourself. To help you do this, I have written the following self-help guide / do it yourself. For some people this may be all they need, especially if they are lucky enough to be photogenic. For those who want to stand out from the crowd, and dating sites are very competitive, then it may be worth investing in a professional photoshoot.

What’s in a Photo

First of all, let’s think about what a photo for your dating profile should or should not consist of. Your photo/portrait tells other people a lot about you, or at least subjectively they feel that way. People want to see your face. When people look at your photo, they want to connect with you, which usually means they want to see your eyes, so eye contact is important in a portrait. A photo of you on holiday at the beach with designer sunglasses can look great on you, you look great and sophisticated, etc. There’s really no point in putting your sunglasses on a coconut and putting a picture of it on your dating profile. Sunglasses make it seem like you have something to hide and tend to make you feel insecure.

People perceive your portrait as a reflection of your lifestyle and history. In reality, we know this is not the case, but nevertheless, this is how our perception works. That’s why they want your picture to give them an impression of your life values, your quality of life, what is important to you if they can relate to you. So things like hairstyle, complexion, clothes, jewelry, posture all contribute to this impression.

At this point, you might think that you don’t want a picture of you on a dating site if people read all this in a small picture. The bottom line is that your photo should only lead the person you are looking for to read your profile and use it, as well as your photo(s), to contact you.

How to create this photo

Three ingredients to get the image you want.

1 camera

2 Light

3 Composition ( you )


I’ll start from the premise that you don’t have an expensive digital camera. In fact, the only camera you might have is your phone. Now, to get you on your way, this will suffice. Some boring technical stuff:- Your mobile phone camera probably has about 1.4 megapixels, maybe 2 megapixels or more. Some of the newer phones have 8-megapixel cameras, and that’s better than some professional cameras were not so long ago. A 1.4-megapixel camera produces an image that fills most of a web page. When you upload images to the dating site, the image size is reduced. So your simple mobile phone camera is good enough for the job.

But one of the first questions you’ll have to deal with is: Who will operate the camera? If you could get help from someone you know, it would be great and make things much easier. However, this leads to the unpleasant questions: Why do you want the pictures, oh, you’re not on one of those dating sites, are you? If you have someone to handle the camera, make sure it’s someone you can relax with. A stranger on the street, “you can take a picture of me standing on anything”, just won’t work! Someone you can relax with will really make a difference. Imagine what it would be like to ask your mom to take your pictures for your dating profile, I don’t know about you, but this is scary!

Okay, so there’s no one to operate the camera, but most cameras, including cell phones, have a delayed timer mode of operation. This means you have to go through the options menus of these cameras on your phone, but it’s worth it. If you can’t figure out how the camera works on your own, go to your local mobile phone shop, they’ll find it for you without asking you what you need the pictures for. The delayed timer could be your best friend in this situation if it has a 10-second delay that you made!

So grab a friend or use a timer, but don’t ask someone on the street.


In photography, amateur photographers think about equipment, professional photographers think about money, and art photographers think about light. You become an art photographer, well, a small step in that direction. To get a good photo, you don’t need flashlights, reflectors, a studio, etc. etc., all you need is the big, big flash of light in the sky. It is the best light source there is, but you have to use it correctly, here are some simple rules:-

Shoot outside or when you’re inside, through a big window.

Avoid direct sunlight, it will highlight wrinkles and pimples, etc.

The best time of day is mid-afternoon, not mid-day. Sunlight a few hours before sunset produces a warmer color palette.

What you want is a bright, cloudy day, with lots of light, but well clear of clouds, which makes the skin look smoother. If it’s a bright and clear day, you have to stay in the shade. In short, a place where no shadow is cast if a shadow is a cast, so is the nose and any imperfections of the face. The goal of the exercise is to create a good photo, not an award-winning work of art, the end result may seem a little flat from a photographer’s point of view, but for your purposes it’s fine.


It’s about you and the place where you’ll take the picture, both of which require some preparation.

Location and background. The photo you take is about you, not about your living room, not about your kitchen, not about a tourist attraction, not about you in a pub. So what we are looking for is something very simple and straightforward. A smooth brick wall is good, a garden fence, green undergrowth. In other words, what we are looking for is a characterless background of simple color, not that the sky is too bright. The first option is a white or grey wall. Look at some of the fashion pictures in some magazines, for example, Hugo Boss, big pictures with a grey concrete wall as a background. The result is that the only interesting feature of the photo is you. So you have to do some research, find one or two suitable places.

Let’s talk about you now, because you are the subject of the photo. We’ll try to take a picture of half a body, i.e. head, shoulders, and chest. The head, because it shows the face and the hair, the shoulders and the chest, gives a clue about the physics. When it comes to taking a photo, you want to feel good and look good, so here are some tips:-

The guys make sure you shave beforehand, even if you take the picture in the middle of the afternoon. If you don’t look like Brad Pitt or David Beckham, etc., the designer beard won’t look good. It makes you look older and greyer, it probably doesn’t make you look sexy.

The hair, make sure it’s clean, so you should avoid this on a windy day. For girls, blowing hair in the wind is a nice, relaxed but dynamic look, but you should leave it for a more professional photo session. Otherwise, you could end up like a bird’s nest on your head.

Girls, when it comes to makeup, keep it simple, imagine you are going to a job interview.

Clothing, we’re really interested in your face, so again, keep it simple, so nothing is too flashy or bright. No flashy, bold patterns, no big stripes. So wear something you’re comfortable with that reflects you. Guys, unless you feel like it’s part of what you wear every day, there’s no tie. For kids, a pain shirt works well. It’s crisp, clean, and smart. Girls, if you are not willing to feel it as part of your character, nothing too scarce, for conventional dating sites you want guys to focus on your face.

Girl, the picture of you in that little black dress, evening makeup, beautiful earrings, etc. is a real winner, but get a good photographer, because the composition of the light and the pose will make a big difference.

Guys, if you are interested in sports or any other action activity, photos of you can look like you have a life. But get yourself a professional photographer again, probably with a long lens and a high-speed camera.

The accessories, if you usually wear jewelry or a scarf or something like that, try it, it’s the picture. Take some pictures with and without, and decide later.

The mood, that’s very important. If you are fed up or feel depressed when you take the picture, you will like it. So get in a good mood, feel good, be happy, taking pictures for your dating profile will be fun. It will make a big difference to find the person you want in your life.

So far so good

To recapitulate…

Classified camera, mobile phone camera, with or without a friend.

Tidy lighting, mid-afternoon on a bright, overcast day.

Classified location, monochromatic wall of pain, if possible white or gray.

Tidy, hair, makeup, clothes, mood, you should have fun with the picture.

The photoshoot

Do you think about all these things before you take a single picture? Yes, those bright pictures you see in magazines take hours to prepare.

If you use the camera’s delay timer, place the camera in front of the background of your choice. You want the camera to be at eye level, not below eye level, and at a distance that only captures your head and chest, with you standing three feet away from the background. This may require a few shots to get the right picture. If you have someone who can help you better, the same applies camera at eye level, head, and chest in the frame.

With the delay timer you have to press the shutter button on your phone/camera, then get into position and wait for the camera to take the picture. So a 10-second delay is good, a long time to get in position, but not too long.

Position/posture, with the greatest respect, you are not a model, so keep it simple. Back to the background looking at the camera is good, but a little stiff, but it’s worth doing a few shots like this.

But try a position where your back is at a 45-degree angle to the background and your face is still facing the camera, first with your right shoulder closer to the camera, and then another shot with your left shoulder closer to the camera.

Important for all those shots: Look at the camera, with your eyes open, don’t think of it as a camera but as the person you really want to meet, oh, and smile! What sometimes helps in these situations is to think of something fun or strange that happened to you to bring back good memories. Just relax and have fun. If you have someone take your pictures and you have a fun conversation with them, that’s why it doesn’t work to do it with a stranger. Take a series of pictures, not just one or two.

A good professional portrait photographer will look at you, talk to you and find out all about you and your life, make you relax and make you feel that taking a picture is a lot of fun. In this way, he will make you come out of yourself and photograph the real you. One of the things that makes a big difference between a technically savvy photographer and a really good portrait photographer is the ability to engage with the subject.

After the shot

After taking the photos, upload them to your computer and leave them for a day or two. Why? Because you have to come back to choose the best photo, but you have to do it objectively, and doing it right after the shoot is not the best time. After a few days, you can decide much more objectively what the best picture is.

Look at all the pictures you have taken and choose the one you think is best for you. Imagine you are someone else, which image you think is best connected to the viewer.

Now upload the photo to your dating profile and see what kind of difference you get in response.

What’s next?

Well, this will give you only one picture on your dating profile. Actually, dating sites are a very competitive environment, and you really need a striking first picture to give that striking impression, as well as a series of follow-up pictures on your profile. Subsequent images should not be the same as the first image. This says nothing new to someone looking at your profile. What you need is four or five nice pictures of you in different clothes and in a different environment. Pictures that show different aspects of you, your life, your personal style, etc. If you are using one of the luxury dating sites that are aimed at professionals and/or rich people, then professional photos are a must. Only then you will get the results you deserve, otherwise, it will seem that you are cheap and not seriously committed.

On the other hand, if you see someone with a great set of photos and you think you would be a good match for them, you can contact them because you know you will make a good impression. However, if you have that tired old picture of you on vacation with sunglasses… Forget it, that’s not gonna happen. Someone with a high-quality image will attract someone who is right for him and can be much more selective.

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